I think there’s also the “how is he looking” issue for women. If a guy is looking in an appreciative “wow that’s a good looking woman” sort of way – I think women are more “understanding” about it. If he’s looking in the “omfg I’d bang that in a heartbeat!” and has drool rolling down his chin …. yeah, not so much.
Definitely, @cola. Ditto if he’s looking at her with a “Come hither” or “On your knees” kind of look directed at her, especially if she responds to it.
It also depends on who started it, and how it progresses. Looking briefly and then looking away? No problem. Looking any way he wants at women that are untouchable like cheerleaders, models in magazines, actresses in films, etc.? Even passing strangers on the street he’ll clearly never see again? Also no problem. Heck, I’ve always pointed these types out to my men myself because their reactions amuse me.
But heavy flirting, lingering looks and drooling over women he’s face to face with or having direct personal contact of any sort with? Mutual eyelock and undressing/ravishing? Verbal/written evidence of a less-than-purely-platonic interest? Especially when she is someone we will routinely encounter in person? Fuck no. Those are all into cheating territory in my book. And cheating is a form of abusive behavior. Continue reading